A QUESTION OF CONFIDENCE

Check with the experts, read the surveys and just about any “top 10” list and you’re sure to find it: CONFIDENCE It’s what every man knows women want, it’s what they want, it is the quintessential masculine characteristic, guaranteed to result in success by any standard or measure, including the sex life of your dreams. […]

AVERAGE MAN, MEET EXCEPTIONAL SEX

In my last posting, Average Man, Meet Average Sex, I offered my perspective on how, in the absence of strong lessons to the contrary, culture becomes role model and teacher in shaping the sexuality of Average Man, and that the outcome of this learning strategy is not very effective. All in an attempt to encourage […]

AVERAGE MAN, MEET AVERAGE SEX

It seems to me that the main focus of the average guy’s sexuality remains pretty much unchanged throughout his life. He wants sex, and by sex I mean vaginal intercourse. It’s a worthy cause, and perfectly understandable – vaginal intercourse is the personification of human sexual contact, the perfect union of form and function. And […]

MESSAGES YOU CAN FEEL

Writing about sex requires a leap of faith – carefully selecting words and sculpting sentences in an attempt to convey some message or insight. But it’s when my work leads to intimate conversations with individuals, couples and small groups that communicating clearly about sex demonstrates its full potential, and understanding is more than a sum […]

THE DUDE BARRIER PREVENTS MEN FROM LEARNING ABOUT SEX

Hey DUDE, bro, buddy … this one’s for you! And if you are of the male persuasion, and happen to make it to the end of this post, then consider yourself exceptional;  because despite my best intentions, and those of many other writers like me, men are apparently less interested in learning about sex than […]

WHERE TO BEGIN – EXPLORING YOUR SEXUALITY

Are you at a crossroads with your sexuality … knowing there is so much more but just not sure on how to get there?  Here’s a suggestion for an easy and safe way into the unknown: Knowing where to begin can be a difficult decision to make, especially when facing something new or unfamiliar.  Often times, […]

WHAT DOES THAT SEXUAL DESIRE REALLY MEAN?

Name any sexual problem or concern, and with few exceptions, you will find its origins in the same two sources: fear, ignorance or both.  Fear, that shows itself in the forms of embarrassment or any aspect of sex that exposes our vulnerabilities; and ignorance, or the lack of knowledge and experience. The good news is […]